One of my greatest challenges in life has been trying to balance my self with my family, my work, my goals, and my research. Something always loses. It is impossible to ignore. Several years ago I begin evaluate the important aspects of my life to prevent the pain of the loss. I knew the pain would always exist, but I knew a way had to exist to reduce the level.
The rank varied depending on what I attributed to each variable. I found my family and my research collided the most. My mind has to constantly be questioning and analyzing and the chaos of being a husband and daddy clashed into a person I did not want to be. I began removing the parts of my life where I did not foresee a positive benefit to my family and research. This allowed me to separate the two and begin removing the clash. It is ongoing, but the perspective gained also rolled into how I work with others.
My clients struggle with similar dilemmas. Do I summit today with the present risks or do I wait for the risks to reduce? My left leg is dragging a bit compared to my left. Do I push it to the top and risk possible issues on the way down? My breathing is shallow today. Do I work on my pulmonary recovery or skip and go run some trails in altitude?
These questions are difficult to answer without having a foundation of history. Typically, I am one to just get after and enjoy the full experience of reaching the destination, but if I have a history of related issues am I sacrificing my future opportunities to reach my goal destinations? It is quite possible I may be, but I must have the data to determine such equations. Otherwise, I am just shooting and hoping.